Updated: Jul 14, 2019
The simple things in life are literally the things that are not complicated. For me, getting back to my basic is being only concerned about God, Myself, and ofcourse my business. It is different for each and everyone of us, your basic might include your children and plenty more and that’s more than ok.
I know what you are thinking, and no we are not here to talk about the TV show “Living Single”, but we are actually talking about living in singless. By singleness, I mean that true singless, like we are not talking to anyone, we are not dating around, and definitely not in a relationship type singleness. This is currently the stage that I am in and I couldn’t be more happier. This is the first time since the time I can remember that I have actually taken time after a heartbreak and several traumatic life events to heal myself with myself. God and I have some serious work to do, and honestly at this point I am not even interested to be casual with my life calling.
I know that my calling requires me to be whole and to be in a season where it’s just me so God can polish his final touches. I have made a promise to myself to be aware of those “Delightful Destrications, as my life group coach Darius Salter states.(He and his wife Caren are awesome btw<3). Delight destristraction are so smooth talking, sweet looking distractions that come into our lives with not so clear intentions. The distractions that help confuse you and stray you away from you person, instead of pushing you into it. But, once we are able to be aware of the distractions the faster we can remove them. I even went on a little tangent on my instagram and stated, “Unless you can walk on water or something then don’t text me, stay out my dm’s, and if you don’t think you were called into my life to be my husband then honestly idc, I am so focused and willing to elevate in this season that if you aren’t God you are irrelevant.” Sis, I meant every word with a passion because that is what this season is about.
I do know how it feels to want to have someone to talk to and you want that phone to be on wet wet but something has to give. The most important part about living in singleness is learning how take time to begin to live again. After coming out of darkness, God will put us in a position of singleness(NOT LONELINESS) so we can learn who we are and get that joy back that we once had. This season is to reflect on who you were so you can walk into what you are called to be. It also shows you that you don’t need people to get it done, and that with faith you gain the strength. Strength that allows you to walk in purpose without depending on something or someone else, which in my case was the most beautiful part. For me, I have up until this point lived my whole life wanting to be accepted by others, which meant doing what others wanted me to do, and that led me to never being able to think by myself. I could never stand ten toes down on me, until I started to walk into my purpose. My purpose has gracefully made me realize that I have to just be okay with me and be with only me right now to step into my next level, until I am whole enough to pour my heart and soul into something or someone else.
I can truly say that I am in a relationship with myself right now and I am totally in love. I can walk into a mirror and might dislike how my round stomach looks, but I am able to hug my love handles and tell myself I am beautiful and getting better each day. The feeling that you get when you know you aren’t at your best, but you know what lies ahead in wholeness is so fulfilling. We have to know when to take a step back and get to the simple things in life to reclaim some of us that we have lost. The simple things in life are literally the things that are not complicated. For me, getting back to my basic is being only concerned about God, Myself, and ofcourse my business. It is different for each and everyone of us, your basic might include your children and plenty more and that’s more than ok.
Especially in this generation, there is such a bad stigma around just being single and enjoying it. But BABBBYYYYYYYYYY, living in your singless will be the most beautiful and valuable part of your life if you make it. It is the time for you to prepare, heal, and grow! Please make it worth your own while and do you boo.